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The Winds of Change

The focus of today’s message is I Ching Hexagram 57 – Wind.

The yin trigram Wind is above. The yin trigram Wind is below.

More than a light breeze?

Much more – an unstoppable movement.

Are we talking of personal development?

There is nothing personal.

What about relationships?

Which relationship?

Yours and mine.

We don’t have one.

But, I relate to you.

In what way?

You are my teacher.

Is that all?

No.

Then, what?

More than I know.

Why?

You’re too far beyond my understanding, at this time.

Yes.

Please explain.

What?

Why relationships are not personal.

Relationships describe connection.

As a bridge?

Yes. And bridges are for crossing.

One way?

No.

Then, we meet halfway?

No.

Then, what?

Relationships are bridges that can unite.

To release duality?

To release the illusion of duality.

Cause or Effect – Chicken or Egg

A spirit teacher shares His understanding of timeless wisdom contained within
the symbolic structure of the 64 I Ching hexagrams, which expresses an endless
series of events and situations that each of us will necessarily experience
during our human lifetimes, until we have learned to become aware of our own
self-directed role in creating the illusion of permanence and of our seeming
resistance to accept what is, and to respond without unproductive emotional
or intellectual analysis. When milk is spilled, by whatever cause, we mop it up.

How does cause and effect or chicken and egg fit into such a philosophy of life?

I Ching hexagram 50 – The Cauldron, answers that question.

Then, please explain.

Fire is over Wind. Each are yin and each is receptive to the other, at least
in this situation.

The separate energies of Fire and Wind, in their extremes, can create destruction.
Together, they could bring about disaster. Mental energies are no different than
those of nature, in this respect.

But, a gentle fire and a controlled movement of air can create warmth, boil
water, or heat food.

Enter the Cauldron?

Yes. A cauldron was a large kettle hung over an open fire, before it was
replaced with modern appliances and more controllable sources of heat.

However, the timeless realities exist even within a so-called modern
world. The transfer of energy still requires movement and interaction
between cause and effect.

What is the message that this discussion of fire and wind say to me?

It dares to ask a question concerning our relationship, which you seem
to hesitate to face.

And, that is …?

Who is what?

Fire or Wind?

No.

Cause or effect?

Yes.

Perhaps we each, depending upon the situation, can and do play
either role.

Yes.

We Choose to Share, or Do We?

Spirit shares His understanding of the timeless wisdom
expressed within the I Ching Hexagram 18 – Degeneration.

Degeneration follows Following (17) and develops into
Overseeing (19).

Mountain (yang) is over Wind (yin).

Isn’t that curious?

That yang is above yin? or that Wind is below Mountain?

Neither.

Then, what is curious.

The construction of the hexagram.

What about the construction of the hexagram?

Mountain contains one yang holding down two yin
while Wind contains one yin holding up two yang.

It doesn’t work that way.

Then, how does it work?

Life works at its finest when we learn to care for
others; even those who seem to oppress us.

Where does Degeneration fit into this concept
of life.

The second line is yang and the fifth line is yin.
The fifth line is the line of leadership and having
a complement on the second line provides for a sharing
of this position of power.

But, if degeneration is the condition that they share …

How could it be otherwise?

I would like to think that any degenerating situation is
a result of masculine abuse of power.

That would be to deny the existence of feminine energy.

How?

How what?

How does masculine responsibility for whatever condition
or situation deny feminine energy?

Abdication or denial of responsibility is, more or less,
acceptance of whatever situation or condition results
from such behaviour.

Are you trying to tell me that …

I’m telling you that dynamic interaction requires
inequality; transient or otherwise, of each and all
of the individual energies in the choices we make.

We?

We share the choice.

And the outcome?

Yes.

Thinking Isn’t Being

Spirit shares His understanding of the I Ching
Hexagram 25 – No Error.

Heaven is above and Thunder is below.

No Error develops out of Return (25) and moves
into Great Accumulation (26).

There is always continuous movement within
each life and within each relationship that
connects each life into more than it would be
possible to be if individuality was other than
inseparable from all life; past, present, and
future.

Where does the concept of no error come into
this picture?

What picture?

Your description of life and of our oneness
within it

We are each more than one within Life. We are
Life.

Then, how does knowing that help us to live
a meaningful life?

We cannot live a meaningful life without
knowing it.

But, a meaningful life may mean different
things to different people.

What has that to do with anything?

Living a meaningful life may mean everything
to some individuals.

There are no individuals.

Perhaps, but there may be many of us who think
we are, more or less.

Thinking isn’t being.

It may be as close to being as some of us get.

Yes.

Co-operation Is Mutually Beneficial

Spirit shares I Ching wisdom.

Wisdom, awareness and enlightenment each reflect
the other two, from a unique perspective.

Our current position, along the path through life,
which we have chosen, more or less, is expressed by
the I Ching Hexagram 50 – The Cauldron.

Fire is over Wind, creating heat as fire and wind
co-operate with each other.

This situation of working together to achieve
a common goal develops out of Revolution (49).
Revolutions are necessarily violent confrontations
of differing goals, as expressed by Water over Fire,
a mutually destructive situation.

Why do we seek to improve our relationships
after the battle?

The battle serves a socially useful purpose.

What purpose?

Mutual respect.

How is that possible if the revolution is successful?

Revolutions are never successful, except …

Except what?

Except when.

When they result in a change in power?

No. That would only result in a change at the top.

Then, when can revolutions be considered to be
successful?

When both sides accept that co-operation is
mutually beneficial.

A win-win situation?

Yes.

Life Is What It Is

Spirit shares I Ching wisdom.

Today’s experience along the way is expressed by
Hexagram 50 – The Cauldron. Fire is above Wind.

Wind would certainly agitate Fire. But, why is
the situation referred to as a cauldron?

The sixth or top line is yang, and is as a lid,
while the first, or bottom line is yin, and is
as a pair of legs that form the base of the body
of the pot.

So yang keeps a lid on yin?

Yes. Intellect must rule over emotion.

Another Universal Law?

Yes.

But, it doesn’t make sense.

In what way?

How could yang do anything without yin?

It cannot.

Then, why must intellect rule emotion?

Intellect rules emotion only in the sense
that …

It has more sense?

That, too.

So, if intellect rules and yet can do nothing
of value …

It can do nothing, period, without yin;
of value or otherwise.

So, we need both intellect and emotion?

Yes.

How do they relate to each other?

As husband and wife.

Or as man and woman?

That isn’t the same.

In what way is it not, if men are superior?

Men are not superior.

Then, please explain.

Husband and wife is a relationship between
two people.

Go on.

Are you ready?

I think so.

Then, here it is. Every team or group requires
a leader to direct it, if that team, group, society,
or married couple share a common goal. We each
contribute what we are best able to contribute,
depending upon our natural attributes, knowledge,
skills, and potentials.

And women are designed to keep the home fires burning?

Yes.

A lot of women, myself included, would call you
a male chauvinist.

Names do not change reality. Life is what it is.

Until it changes?

It never changes from being Life.

Our Desired Outcome May Not Choose Us

Spirit shares I Ching wisdom.

First, He explains to me that the purpose
of using the 64 I Ching hexagrams
to share ancient wisdom is to enable
seekers to learn to accept that
nothing happens totally separated from
what has or what might yet happen.

Life and all situations we experience
are intricately connected together.
Before and following are relative terms
that have no separately existing
meaning but are always and must be
part of what is happening now.

The finger that points back to where
we have been is the same finger
that can point ahead to where we are
or may go, unless we choose to follow
another path, or another way of life.

Hexagram 46 – Rising represents today’s
I Ching situation. Rising follows
Gathering and leads, or can lead to
Exhaustion, unless we choose to travel
in a different direction.

We gather what we value, at any given
time and in any given situation.
Harvest is a season to gather crops
that have reached an ideal stage
of development.

We also gather certain people we know,
as friends, when our relationship
to them has developed to a certain stage.

How does Gathering lead to Rising?

The numbers or quantity of whatever
we gather rises as we gather.

Then, how can Rising lead to Exhaustion?

We can only rise as high as we can
without exhaustion.

Please explain.

We gather to ourselves whatever we seem
to need or, with some, as much as they
can above their personal needs, and are
not satisfied until the effort involved
in continuing to rise exhausts them.

Could seeking knowledge and understanding
have the same result?

Yes.

Then, quality of what we choose to gather
to us has no effect on outcome?

What outcome?

Our chosen outcome.

Do we choose outcome?

Don’t we choose outcome?

No.

Wow!

What does that mean?

It means, as I’m sure you know,
that I now understand that we
can choose our desired outcome
but it might not choose us.

Yes.

Someone Must Supervise

Spirit shares His understanding of timeless wisdom expressed
within the I Ching Hexagram 19 – Supervision.

Supervision follows Deterioration (18) in the sequential order
of life experiences represented by the sixty-four I Ching hexagrams. Supervision then becomes the foundation of Observing (20).

The need to consciously supervise the renovation or rebuilding
of whatever has been allowed to fall into an unhealthy condition
refers not only to structures of wood and stone, but also to
physical, mental, and spiritual disease processes, as well as to
personal, social, and political relationships.

Someone or some force must supervise the development of a new
phase in the life of whatever or whoever has deteriorated.
Situations do not improve on their own. This is a Law of Life.

Everything and everyone needs help to recover from whatever?

Yes.

But, does supervision necessarily involve control over the
recovery or rebuilding of whatever?

If necessary, yes.

Who decides?

I do.

That sounds personal.

It is, as is life.

What does that mean?

What do you think it means?

I’m afraid to guess.

Yes.

How Many Times?

Spirit shares His understanding of the life situation expressed by I Ching Hexagram 14 – Great Possession. Fire is over Heaven. Both are yang.  Great Possession follows Association with Others (13) and leads to Humility (15).

“Fire, in this instance, expresses emotion out of control, or with great potential
to move in that direction. Heaven represents self-controlled
power and stability.”

“We’re into Yin and Yang again?”

“We can never leave the concepts of extremes of emotion
and control.”

“Why?”

“These are as boundaries within which we live.”

“Are they the same for everyone?”

“Yes and no.”

“Why yes?”

“We each choose the boundaries of our comfort or
safety zone, within which we live our life
our way.”

“And no?”

“Some dare to accept that self-imposed boundaries
can be expanded, without necessarily leaving
the situation or relationship the boundaries
enclose.”

“Why not just leave and start again?”

“How many times?”

………………

Attraction pulls as a pendulum

Spirit shares His understanding of I Ching wisdom expressed by Hexagram 42 – Increase. Wind is over Thunder; yang over  yin. Every line has its ideal complement.

“Increase develops out of Reduction (41). and moves toward Removal (43) The pendulum reaches its extreme in either direction of expansion and then turns, as a railway or bus line between two limits of its route. Whenever we reduce our position relative to whatever, or whomever, we, at the same time, increase it to another. The Law of Attraction works according to this principle.”

“How did the Law of Attraction …?”

“How does the Law of Attraction enter into the concept of increase?”

“Yes.”

“Whatever we attract moves our relationship from the opposite position.”

“What if we attract each other?”

“Then we have moved away from a position of being less attracted to each other.”

“Is there a personal message, or question?”

“Yes.”

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